Showing posts from January, 2016

4 Months and Counting

Wedding planning is coming along very nicely.  I was kinda nervous that my control freak would kick in and I would turn into a Bridezilla, but thus far that has not been the case (knock on wood).

I have started the DIY portion of things. Since it is winter and cold up here (although, again knock on wood, not nearly as bad as last year) knocking this stuff out now makes sense. I've got the cake topper finished and I'm working on the boutonnieres now. The theory isn't matching up to the reality so I need to do a little more work there, but it's coming on. The bouquet will be next, although I need to let that percolate a little longer.

I'll be having my second muslin fitting tomorrow for my dress. Once we get that squared away, it is fabric purchasing and sewing time! I am super excited for this dress. I'll wear it again, although I'm not entirely sure where. Although, I run with a crowd who likes nothing more than finding excuses to wear corsets and dress up,…

Two Paths Diverge in a Yellow Wood

This is a hard post to write, and frankly I've re-written it about four times now before I've gotten it to a place where I feel like I can put it online. Even now, I'm still a little hesitant to do so. But you're reading it, so I did.

Over the last several years,  I have watched a dear friend go through tough times and make some serious life changes. Generally speaking, while I haven't understood them all I've done my best to support her. Because I love her very much and I want her to be happy.

But my deep, dark secret is that I have been struggling with heartbreak for these last years. I miss my friend. The one I knew before all these changes happened. My partner in crime. I have watched as everything we had in common was cast aside as inappropriate. I have floundered in finding common ground with the person she has become. I have been unable to find a way to accept some of the choices that have been made.

I am angry at myself for not being more accepting, tol…

Mistaking Disinterest for Incapability Earns You a Swift Kick in the Arse

I was brought up to be an independent, strong woman. I was always told I could do whatever I wanted to do. My parents were equal opportunity teachers; my brother learned how to cook and do laundry the same as me and I learned how to shoot a rifle and play baseball, like him. We were allowed to explore our interests without worry as to their relationship to gender lines. The fact that I was into ballet and he baseball was just how it played out.

It was never on my radar that boys should only do this and girls should only do that. We all could do whatever our talents led us to do. It was that simple.

So that was how I lived my life. I went along knowing that I could do whatever I wanted, and if there was something I didn't particularly want to learn (like how to sew or how to change a tire) it was because I simply wasn't interested in it, not because I couldn't do them.

(PS, I can change a tire if I really have to and while I shouldn't be allowed to sew anything ever, I …

Never His Mind on Where He Was, What He Was Doing...

Seen Empire Strikes Back too many times, I have.


I am holed up today battling the second of my winter colds. Although, honestly, I'm considering it a continuation of my first one, as basically it skipped all the other typical cold stuff and went straight to my lungs. My last cold skipped that last bit. I thought I'd beaten the bronchitis monster finally, but apparently it was just kind enough to wait until the holiday rush was over.

I am coming to the conclusion that our Moratorium on Major Life Shifts has been one of the best things Best Guy and I could have done. It has been amazingly freeing, at least for me. All requests on my time get filtered by that lens. Anything that makes it through I feel confident that I can accept as is. Anything that gets stopped by it, I have been saying "ask me again after the wedding."

It has been amazing how well people have accepted this when I explain our reasoning. It isn't like I'm dismissing things out of hand or…

Welcome, 2016!

I have a couple post ideas in the works, but after noticing it had been two weeks since I have said anything here, I thought it might be nice to ease in to the new year with a little fluff. And cookies. Oh, my yes. All the dog-gammed cookies.