Saturday, October 11, 2014

Show Your Work

The thing about starting down the path of "doing the work" is, there is always more to do. Just when you think you've got it all sorted, gotten everything figured out, let go of everything that needed to be jettisoned... something else emerges.

Maybe it's a big thing. Maybe it's a little thing. But there is always some thing.

You can be the most annoyingly happy person in the world and there is still more work to be done. More facing of the shit.

The more work you do, the more work there is to do.

I've also noticed something else. When you don't fight it, it gets a little easier. At least with the smaller stuff. All bets are off with the big bastards but you're better off not fighting them either as their punch will knock you down for the count.

In the book Radical Acceptance (have you not bought this book? Buy. It.) the author talks about inviting your demons to sit down for tea. When you acknowledge what is coming up and accept it unconditionally, it loses some of its weight. When you look at what it is and just say "Oh hi! Come, sit. Tell me what it is I need to learn from you", its power over you diminishes.

Of course, sometimes you have to invite the demons to breakfast, second breakfast, brunch, luncheon, tea, dinner and supper before you can make any headway, but at least tea tends to have cake.

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